by Lavone Li (with Julia Cheung)

During this time of COVID-19 isolation, many moms have had to become homeschool moms. It is not easy, especially if you have to work from home too. Some words of wisdom from a full-time homeschooling mom.

“What’s so bad about princesses and handsome princes?”

“Well, for the most part, princesses have long, blond hair and a tiny waist waiting to be rescued by handsome princes. You, my darling girls, don’t look anything like that. But you are absolutely beautiful without copying anyone or anything. And by the way, your father can’t ride a horse or use a sword and darts the other direction when a dragon comes – but he is wonderful and charming the way he seeks after God.”

And this is just a snippet of one of a myriad of precious interchanges that I am privileged to have with my two daughters, Charis (9) and Alethea (7). You see, I homeschool.

We spend a lot of time together. I love hearing their thoughts. From last night’s dreams to their interpretation of the world, little nuggets bubble up sporadically throughout the day. As our dialogue about princesses and princes shows, we’ve recently been especially focused on manhood and womanhood. (I discouraged my girls away from fairytales, even from the beginning.)

But I love homeschooling. As we go through all the academic subjects, I feel like I get to have a second chance to learn what I took for granted when I was younger. I recall shrieking while jumping up and down when Charis, Alethea, and I went through a unit on our solar system – I had just realized the moon spins while going around the earth, while the earth spins going around the sun. My daughters simply took it for face value, but the little child in me was bewildered by God’s vast and wonderful creation.

Homeschooling has its challenges. I do not always handle meltdowns with grace and love. In fact, when I react to those moments lovingly, that is when I know there is a God. So many times, I have asked my children to forgive me for being critical, for saying things out of anger, or for disciplining without love. Even that apologizing moment is beautiful in the end because they see that mommy needs Jesus too. I just really want to do life together.
Homeschooling can be a daunting task. I comfort myself by admitting that homeschool is not a perfect educational approach. I tend to lean towards my interests (literary arts) and lax on science and math.

I get a lot of both praise and criticism because of my choice to homeschool. Honestly, I do not care for either. Deep down, I just want to do what is right for our family. I need to search my heart daily and understand what my intentions are for doing this. Very soon, my girls will be independent from us and I hope I can bless them by letting them go freely, whether they choose the princess route, the scientist route, or any other route in between.

Lavone Li homeschools with Kelowna-based Heritage Christian Online School.

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