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Are you feeling lonely and isolated?

Are you feeling lonely and isolated?

by Simon Gibson


Some years ago, my wife and I arranged for a young mother to provide after-school care for Alisa, our youngest daughter. The woman had recently moved from Vancouver Island with her husband and two children.

After about four or five months, she told me one day that her husband had secured a better job in their hometown of Parksville, and that they would be returning almost immediately.

I thanked her for her service to our family and asked if she had made any friends while in Abbotsford.

She replied, “You were the only person I ever knew.” I was shocked because I had only the briefest of conversations with her.

Although I did not realize it at the time, it was almost certain that this young Mom was extremely lonely.

Even though many of us are busy and may know many people – perhaps at work, school, or church – we can also be isolated and alone.

Men, in particular, can be lonely, although they would not like to admit it. Some statistics suggest that most men do not have one close friend, someone to just “hang out” with.

The poet, Ralph Waldo Emerson, said it well, “A friend may well be reckoned the masterpiece of nature.”

We cannot survive without friendships, and we need the warmth of human intimacy.

Recently, I read an article in a popular magazine in which a British psychiatrist was being interviewed. He said that it was his belief that about half the people receiving psychiatric care could be released if they knew that someone loved them.

The Bible talks about this: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” (Which means a brother is there for you, even in the tough times.)
Having a friendship with God is the most important personal relationship we can have – it forms the basis for all others.

God, through his son, Jesus Christ, wants to fellowship with us and know us intimately.

You may be familiar with this verse: “For God so loved the world that he gave his only son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Christ was perfect and accepted death on a cross and rose again for you personally.

Think for a moment about all the bad things you have done – even those things that are secret: the Bible calls this “sin.”

Sin separates us from God and makes us ashamed and empty.

God through Christ invites you to have a personal relationship with him: “Behold I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him, and eat with him, and he with me.”

Maybe as you are reading this, you are sensing that you need to “come clean” with God and open up your life to him through Christ.

Perhaps you are feeling a sense of isolation and know that it is because you have rejected God.

God says in the Bible, “I will never fail you not forsake you.” That’s a promise!

Today would be a great time to accept Christ as your Saviour, to trust him with your life: only He can meet your deepest needs. Or perhaps you have trusted Him in the past, but have walked away from that faith. Put your trust in Him again. He will not forsake you.

And, if you are lonely and wish for a friend, God will direct you and guide you. He does not want you to be isolated.


Simon Gibson is the MLA for the Abbotsford-Mission. He was an instructor/professor at Trinity Western University and UFV where he taught in the departments of communication and business. He is married to Joy and they have two adult daughters and three grandchildren. They attend Mountain Park Community Church in Abbotsford.


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