By Rebecca Bergman
As my boys have gotten older the topics of our conversations have definitely changed. It’s often uncomfortable to talk about difficult things, but it’s important, and so I do. I don’t give them all the information, but I definitely give them some of it.
We were reading the story of Moses the other night in a children’s Bible. Do you remember the reason Moses’ mom had to hide him inside a homemade boat in the bullrushes? All of the Israelite baby boys had been ordered to be killed.
A few weeks ago, we had been studying Roman history and I had mentioned the brutality of the Colosseum…
Then June 6 came and went (the D-day anniversary) and we added in a discussion about World War II.
And then that little boy of mine had been methodically rocking in the chair while we were recently watching the news. Suddenly he sat straight up and exclaimed, “What?? That’s NOT right!”
But they are also learning that all of this grieves the heart of God.
And if it grieves His heart, it should also grieve ours.
And they are learning that this wasn’t how the world was meant to be.
And that this isn’t what heaven will look like.
Slavery, war, concentration camps, residential schools, racism… the list of wrongdoing is long, and unfortunately always being added to.
So, what can I do?
Teach them that God’s way is love.
“Jesus replied, “The most important commandment is this: You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind and all your strength. The second is equally important: Love your neighbour as yourself.” – Mark 12:29-31
Teach them the stories of the past.
I need to give names and faces to those who have suffered and to the brave ones who have stood up against injustice. When they hear names like Corrie Ten Boom, Nelson Mandela, and Rosa Parks, I don’t want them to say, “Who was that?” I want them to knowingly nod with respectful compassion.
They need to know that their words and actions matter, and they need to know the importance of standing up for those who aren’t being treated as they should.
And this training starts while they are still children in our home. We tell them often, “If you see anyone being mean or hurting your brothers, it’s your job to defend them BECAUSE they’re your family, and it’s the right thing to do.”
“Start practicing now how you will one day act as an adult.”
Sounds simple? Probably not. Important? Absolutely.
So, I teach them, I talk to them, I pour the Word of God into them. And I pray and believe that they will grow up to be Godly young men who bring hope, love, and justice wherever they go.
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By Marlow Gingerich
Ralph lost his wife to cancer. When he stopped into our office with a cheque to top up his Gifting Fund™, he was still working through the tangle of emotions such life events bring. I invited him into my office and as we chatted, Ralph described the charity distributions that he wanted to complete in memory of his wife.
Our discussion turned to Abundance Canada’s metrics about the significant influence in-kind donations of publicly traded securities (stocks, bonds and mutual funds) from non-registered investment accounts were having on the foundation’s annual donation totals. I explained to Ralph the tax efficiency of donating publicly traded securities, as compared to selling the securities and donating the cash proceeds from the sale. When donating in-kind publicly traded securities, the capital gain has a zero-percentage rate inclusion (you pay no tax on the capital gain). The donor receives a charitable receipt for the market value of the donated securities based on the date the transfer is initiated.
After musing his options, Ralph decided to initiate an in-kind donation of mutual funds units to Abundance Canada, instead of donating cash. The total value of his in-kind transfer was fifty percent higher than his initial cheque!
After the mutual funds were received by Abundance Canada, Ralph provided us with recommendations to support his favourite charities and to leave the remaining balance of the proceeds from the sale of the securities in his Gifting Fund for future distributions. Ralph and I met again earlier this year to create his Generosity Plan™, to help achieve his charitable goals now and into the future.
Marlow Gingerich is a Gift Planning Consultant with Abundance Canada. Since 1974, Abundance Canada has helped people with their charitable giving at every stage of life and beyond. To learn more visit abundance.ca or call 1.888.212.8608.